What it really boils down to is we hold our value systems — about anything, be it right vs. female responsibilities or sexual preferences — very close to our hearts.We have ridiculously, almost childishly long, drawn-out arguments about whose “fault” something is, and a complete inability to change thoughts and behaviors we believe (whether true or not to you and the rest of society) to be correct.
But before you get all excited about this part, understand it's something we really do crave internally as much as we do physically and simply need it in order to feel a connection with another person.
“They want the perfect girlfriend—in their eyes,” says Miranda, the young woman at our table.* “She’s well groomed, cultured, classy, able to converse about anything—but not bringing into it any of her real-world problems or feelings.”Miranda is 22 and has the wavy bobbed hair and clipped mid-Atlantic accent of a 1930s movie star; she grew up in a Texas suburb. He gave me money to help out with my living expenses.”It ended when she went on a school year abroad and started meeting men on Seeking Arrangement, the Web site and app which match “sugar daddies” with “sugar babies,” whose company the daddies pay for with “allowances.” Now, she says, she has a rotation of three regular “clients”—”a top Austin lawyer, a top architect, and another tech guy,” all of them married. “I signed up for Seeking Arrangement when I couldn’t pay my rent.
“I’ve learned how to look like this, talk like this,” she says. She adds, “Their relationships are not my business.”She confesses she isn’t physically attracted to any of these men, but “what I’m looking for in this transaction is not sexual satisfaction. But I was held back because of the stigma if anyone finds out.”“What right does anyone have to judge you for anything you do with your body? The most surprising thing about Miranda’s story is how unsurprising it is to many of her peers.
As much as I think daily horoscopes are so overly generic and sometimes change the way we interpret our days as they can become self-fulfilling prophecies, I've always found the characteristics that describe each star sign to be spot-on.
As Sagittarians, we hold onto freedom like it is our lifeblood.